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May 14, 2019
Category: Parenting
Tags: parenting   college   Helping   Over-Helping  

Are You Over-Helping Your College-Bound Teen?

Are You Over-Helping Your College-Bound Teen?

By: Hansa Bhargava, MD, FAAP

In light of the recent college admissions scandal, this article is a must-read for parents of children who will be applying to college in the near future—and food for thought for parents of kids of all ages and stages. It helps parents see that when they over-help by removing obstacles or challenges on life's path, they are only hurting their child in the long-run. The article also provides tips on how to truly guide children through difficulties and disappointments. Read the full article in English or Spanish

May 14, 2019
Category: Safety
Tags: safety   parenting   texting   Driving  

Two-Thirds Of Parents Surveyed Have Read Texts While Driving, And More Than Half Have Also Written Texts, Researchers Say


Reuters (5/13) reports, “More than half of U.S. parents believe it’s unsafe to text while driving, but most of them do it anyway,” researchers concluded after surveying “435 parents in 45 U.S. states.” The study revealed that “52 percent of millennial parents (22 to 37 years old) and 58 percent of older parents said they thought it was ‘never’ safe to text and drive,” but nearly “two-thirds of parents have read texts while driving, and more than half of them have also written texts.” What’s more, “roughly three in four parents said they didn’t recall their child’s pediatrician speaking to them about distracted driving or the dangers of texting while driving.” The findings were published online in a research letter in JAMA Pediatrics. HealthDay (5/13) also covers the study.

November 06, 2018
Category: Discipline
Tags: parenting   discipline   behavior   Punishment   Spanking   aggression   defiance   timeout   corporal   hitting  


Parents should not spank their children, the American Academy of Pediatrics said on Monday in its most strongly worded policy statement warning against the harmful effects of corporal punishment in the home.

The group, which represents about 67,000 doctors, also recommended that pediatricians advise parents against the use of spanking, which it defined as “noninjurious, openhanded hitting with the intention of modifying child behavior,” and said to avoid using nonphysical punishment that is humiliating, scary or threatening.

“One of the most important relationships we all have is the relationship between ourselves and our parents, and it makes sense to eliminate or limit fear and violence in that loving relationship,” said Dr. Robert D. Sege, a pediatrician at Tufts Medical Center and the Floating Hospital for Children in Boston, and one of the authors of the statement.

The academy’s new policy, which will be published in the December issue of the journal Pediatrics, updates 20-year-old guidance on discipline that recommended parents be “encouraged” not to spank. The organization’s latest statement stems from a body of research that was unavailable two decades ago.


2016 analysis of multiple studies, for example, found that children do not benefit from spanking.

“Certainly you can get a child’s attention, but it’s not an effective strategy to teach right from wrong,” Dr. Sege said.

Recent studies have also shown that corporal punishment is associated with increased aggression and makes it more likely that children will be defiant in the future. Spanking alone is associated with outcomes similar to those of children who experience physical abuse, the new academy statement says.

There are potential ramifications to the brain as well: A 2009 study of 23 young adults who had repeated exposure to harsh corporal punishment found reduced gray matter volume in an area of the prefrontal cortex that is believed to play a crucial role in social cognition. Those exposed to harsh punishment also had a lower performance I.Q. than that of a control group.

Although the study was small in scope, it can help provide a biological basis for other observations about corporal punishment, Dr. Sege said.

So what is the best way to discipline children? That largely depends on the age and temperament of the child, experts say.


Effective discipline involves practicing empathy and “understanding how to treat your child in different stages in development to teach them how to cool down when things do get explosive,” said Dr. Vincent J. Palusci, a child abuse pediatrician at Hassenfeld Children’s Hospital at N.Y.U. Langone.

The academy’s parenting website,, offers tips for disciplining younger and older children. Rewarding positive behavior, using timeouts and establishing a clear relationship between behavior and consequences can all be effective strategies.

“We can’t just take away spanking,” Dr. Palusci said. “We have to give parents something to replace it with.”

The number of parents who spank their children has been on the decline. A 2013 Harris Poll of 2,286 adults surveyed online found 67 percent of parents said they had spanked their children and 33 percent had not. In 1995, however, 80 percent of parents said they had spanked their children while 19 percent said they had not.

Attitudes about spanking are also changing. Although seven in 10 adults in the United States agreed a “good, hard spanking is sometimes necessary to discipline a child,” according to the 2014 General Social Survey, spanking has become less popular over time.

In 1970, Fitzhugh Dodson, a clinical psychologist and best-selling author of books on parenting, was quoted in The New York Times as saying that many discipline problems could be solved by using his “pow wow approach.”

“It’s my pow, followed by his wow,” he explained, demonstrating how he would swat a child’s bottom.

“I know some books say parents shouldn’t spank, but I think it’s a mistake,” he said. “A poor mother is left with nowhere to go. She’s mad at the kid, has had it up to the eyebrows with him, and longs to give him a big smack on the behind, but she’s been told she shouldn’t. She should, and it’s good for her, because it releases her tension. And the child definitely prefers it to long parental harangues.”


And in the 1945 edition of “Baby and Child Care,” Dr. Benjamin Spock said spanking “is less poisonous than lengthy disapproval, because it clears the air, for parents and child.” (In the ’80s, however, he changed his mind.)

Today, most doctors don’t support it.

recent survey of 1,500 pediatricians in the United States found that 74 percent did not approve of spanking and 78 percent thought spanking never or seldom improved children’s behavior.

It’s a different situation among legislators and school administrators. Although corporal punishment in public schools is not permitted in 31 states and the District of Columbia, there are 19 states, mainly in the South, that either allow the practice or do not have specific rules prohibiting it.

In 2000, the academy recommended that corporal punishment in schools be abolished in all states. And in 2016, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention published a tool kit for preventing child abuse and neglect that highlighted a need for legislation to end corporal punishment.

But attempts to do so at the federal level have failed.

“I think people see school discipline and parental discipline very differently,” said Elizabeth T. Gershoff, a professor at the University of Texas at Austin who has studied corporal punishment in public schools.

Even so, she added, it’s possible the new academy statement could lead to change down the road.

“It shows we are seeing the beginning of a shift away from believing it is O.K. to hit children in the name of discipline,” she said.

Children “need to know that you have their best interests at heart,” Dr. Gershoff said. “If the kid doesn’t trust the parent, then they’re never going to want to do what they say.”

July 31, 2018
Category: Books
Tags: parenting   behavior   Guide   ADD   ADHD  
Parental Involvement
Parents of children with Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder are constantly asking teachers what they can do to manage their child’s behavior at home and support their child’s success at school. The Parent’s Guide to Attention Deficit Disorder (390 pages, © 1995) provides logical and useful suggestions for those parents who have been searching for solutions to their child’s problems. Using the same format as the most successful intervention manuals Hawthorne has developed for educators, parents now have hundreds of suggestions available to them to help their child who has an Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder. The guide is based on behaviors from the Home Versionof the Attention Deficit Disorder Evaluation Scale - Fourth Edition and is easily referenced by the categories of Inattentive and Hyperactive-Impulsive. The Parent’s Guide to Attention Deficit Disorder has been expanded to include 144 additional behaviors.


This Guide is available on

2nd edition © 1995) provides logical and useful suggestions for those parents who have been searching for solutions to their child's problems. Using the same format as the most successful intervention manuals Hawthorne has developed for educators, parents now have hundreds of suggestions available to them to help their child who has an Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder.


July 31, 2018
Category: Books
Tags: parenting   behavior   Guide   Solutions   Home  

Solutions to Today’s Most Common Behavior Problems in the Home


by Stephen B. McCarney, Ed.D. &
Angela M. Bauer, M.Ed.

© 1990


This is one of the most valuable resources available for today’s parents.

Item #01300

The Parent’s Guide is a collection of specific strategies for the 102 most common behavior problems encountered in and around the home. This is one of the most comprehensive guides available for parents to improve parenting skills by providing positive interventions to remediate the behavior problems of children and youth. The Parent’s Guideis the perfect resource for parents of special needs children, foster parents, adoptive parents, or any parent/guardian who wishes to improve his or her skills in coping with the demands of raising children today. As parents and guardians use the Parent’s Guide, their skills will improve as they apply the specific intervention strategies to behavior problems encountered in the home environment. 
The user-friendly format of the Parent’s Guide (240 pages, © 1990) will prove much more useful and convenient than other resources on the subject because the guide was developed to respond to the need to know what to do - NOW. The Parent’s Guide reduces the need for costly and time-consuming training programs by placing an authoritative resource in the hands and homes of parents where it is most needed.


Characteristics of The Parent’s Guide 

The Parent’s Guide 

  • contains strategies for dealing with the 102 most common behavior problems around the home,
  • has a comprehensive listing of strategies that allows parents/guardians to select the specific strategies which are most likely to be successful, 
  • is individualized, and
  • is used by parents or guardians in the home environment.


Parent's Guide


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