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November 06, 2018
Category: Discipline
Tags: parenting   discipline   behavior   Punishment   Spanking   aggression   defiance   timeout   corporal   hitting  


Parents should not spank their children, the American Academy of Pediatrics said on Monday in its most strongly worded policy statement warning against the harmful effects of corporal punishment in the home.

The group, which represents about 67,000 doctors, also recommended that pediatricians advise parents against the use of spanking, which it defined as “noninjurious, openhanded hitting with the intention of modifying child behavior,” and said to avoid using nonphysical punishment that is humiliating, scary or threatening.

“One of the most important relationships we all have is the relationship between ourselves and our parents, and it makes sense to eliminate or limit fear and violence in that loving relationship,” said Dr. Robert D. Sege, a pediatrician at Tufts Medical Center and the Floating Hospital for Children in Boston, and one of the authors of the statement.

The academy’s new policy, which will be published in the December issue of the journal Pediatrics, updates 20-year-old guidance on discipline that recommended parents be “encouraged” not to spank. The organization’s latest statement stems from a body of research that was unavailable two decades ago.


2016 analysis of multiple studies, for example, found that children do not benefit from spanking.

“Certainly you can get a child’s attention, but it’s not an effective strategy to teach right from wrong,” Dr. Sege said.

Recent studies have also shown that corporal punishment is associated with increased aggression and makes it more likely that children will be defiant in the future. Spanking alone is associated with outcomes similar to those of children who experience physical abuse, the new academy statement says.

There are potential ramifications to the brain as well: A 2009 study of 23 young adults who had repeated exposure to harsh corporal punishment found reduced gray matter volume in an area of the prefrontal cortex that is believed to play a crucial role in social cognition. Those exposed to harsh punishment also had a lower performance I.Q. than that of a control group.

Although the study was small in scope, it can help provide a biological basis for other observations about corporal punishment, Dr. Sege said.

So what is the best way to discipline children? That largely depends on the age and temperament of the child, experts say.


Effective discipline involves practicing empathy and “understanding how to treat your child in different stages in development to teach them how to cool down when things do get explosive,” said Dr. Vincent J. Palusci, a child abuse pediatrician at Hassenfeld Children’s Hospital at N.Y.U. Langone.

The academy’s parenting website,, offers tips for disciplining younger and older children. Rewarding positive behavior, using timeouts and establishing a clear relationship between behavior and consequences can all be effective strategies.

“We can’t just take away spanking,” Dr. Palusci said. “We have to give parents something to replace it with.”

The number of parents who spank their children has been on the decline. A 2013 Harris Poll of 2,286 adults surveyed online found 67 percent of parents said they had spanked their children and 33 percent had not. In 1995, however, 80 percent of parents said they had spanked their children while 19 percent said they had not.

Attitudes about spanking are also changing. Although seven in 10 adults in the United States agreed a “good, hard spanking is sometimes necessary to discipline a child,” according to the 2014 General Social Survey, spanking has become less popular over time.

In 1970, Fitzhugh Dodson, a clinical psychologist and best-selling author of books on parenting, was quoted in The New York Times as saying that many discipline problems could be solved by using his “pow wow approach.”

“It’s my pow, followed by his wow,” he explained, demonstrating how he would swat a child’s bottom.

“I know some books say parents shouldn’t spank, but I think it’s a mistake,” he said. “A poor mother is left with nowhere to go. She’s mad at the kid, has had it up to the eyebrows with him, and longs to give him a big smack on the behind, but she’s been told she shouldn’t. She should, and it’s good for her, because it releases her tension. And the child definitely prefers it to long parental harangues.”


And in the 1945 edition of “Baby and Child Care,” Dr. Benjamin Spock said spanking “is less poisonous than lengthy disapproval, because it clears the air, for parents and child.” (In the ’80s, however, he changed his mind.)

Today, most doctors don’t support it.

recent survey of 1,500 pediatricians in the United States found that 74 percent did not approve of spanking and 78 percent thought spanking never or seldom improved children’s behavior.

It’s a different situation among legislators and school administrators. Although corporal punishment in public schools is not permitted in 31 states and the District of Columbia, there are 19 states, mainly in the South, that either allow the practice or do not have specific rules prohibiting it.

In 2000, the academy recommended that corporal punishment in schools be abolished in all states. And in 2016, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention published a tool kit for preventing child abuse and neglect that highlighted a need for legislation to end corporal punishment.

But attempts to do so at the federal level have failed.

“I think people see school discipline and parental discipline very differently,” said Elizabeth T. Gershoff, a professor at the University of Texas at Austin who has studied corporal punishment in public schools.

Even so, she added, it’s possible the new academy statement could lead to change down the road.

“It shows we are seeing the beginning of a shift away from believing it is O.K. to hit children in the name of discipline,” she said.

Children “need to know that you have their best interests at heart,” Dr. Gershoff said. “If the kid doesn’t trust the parent, then they’re never going to want to do what they say.”

July 31, 2018
Category: Books
Tags: parenting   behavior   Guide   ADD   ADHD  
Parental Involvement
Parents of children with Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder are constantly asking teachers what they can do to manage their child’s behavior at home and support their child’s success at school. The Parent’s Guide to Attention Deficit Disorder (390 pages, © 1995) provides logical and useful suggestions for those parents who have been searching for solutions to their child’s problems. Using the same format as the most successful intervention manuals Hawthorne has developed for educators, parents now have hundreds of suggestions available to them to help their child who has an Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder. The guide is based on behaviors from the Home Versionof the Attention Deficit Disorder Evaluation Scale - Fourth Edition and is easily referenced by the categories of Inattentive and Hyperactive-Impulsive. The Parent’s Guide to Attention Deficit Disorder has been expanded to include 144 additional behaviors.


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2nd edition © 1995) provides logical and useful suggestions for those parents who have been searching for solutions to their child's problems. Using the same format as the most successful intervention manuals Hawthorne has developed for educators, parents now have hundreds of suggestions available to them to help their child who has an Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder.


July 31, 2018
Category: Books
Tags: parenting   behavior   Guide   Solutions   Home  

Solutions to Today’s Most Common Behavior Problems in the Home


by Stephen B. McCarney, Ed.D. &
Angela M. Bauer, M.Ed.

© 1990


This is one of the most valuable resources available for today’s parents.

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The Parent’s Guide is a collection of specific strategies for the 102 most common behavior problems encountered in and around the home. This is one of the most comprehensive guides available for parents to improve parenting skills by providing positive interventions to remediate the behavior problems of children and youth. The Parent’s Guideis the perfect resource for parents of special needs children, foster parents, adoptive parents, or any parent/guardian who wishes to improve his or her skills in coping with the demands of raising children today. As parents and guardians use the Parent’s Guide, their skills will improve as they apply the specific intervention strategies to behavior problems encountered in the home environment. 
The user-friendly format of the Parent’s Guide (240 pages, © 1990) will prove much more useful and convenient than other resources on the subject because the guide was developed to respond to the need to know what to do - NOW. The Parent’s Guide reduces the need for costly and time-consuming training programs by placing an authoritative resource in the hands and homes of parents where it is most needed.


Characteristics of The Parent’s Guide 

The Parent’s Guide 

  • contains strategies for dealing with the 102 most common behavior problems around the home,
  • has a comprehensive listing of strategies that allows parents/guardians to select the specific strategies which are most likely to be successful, 
  • is individualized, and
  • is used by parents or guardians in the home environment.


Parent's Guide


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April 26, 2018
Category: Safety
Tags: parenting   AAP   Free   SIDS   SUIDS   Life Saving   Child Care   Day Care   Baby Sitters  
  • Reducing the Risk of SIDS and SUID in Early Education and Child Care


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March 01, 2018
Category: Books

The New York Times bestseller that is a must-read for any parent!

From Beth Kobliner, the author of the bestselling personal finance bible Get a Financial Life—a new, must-have guide showing parents how to teach their children (from toddlers to young adults) to manage money in a smart way.

Many of us think we can have the “money talk” when our kids are old enough to get it…which won’t be for years, right? But get this: Research shows that even preschoolers can understand basic money concepts, and a study from Cambridge University confirmed that basic money habits are formed by the age of seven. Oh, and research shows the number one influence on kids’ financial behaviors is mom and dad. Clearly, we can’t afford to wait.

Make Your Kid a Money Genius (Even If You’re Not) is a jargon-free, step-by-step guide to help parents of all income levels teach their kids—from ages three to twenty-three—about money. It turns out the key to raising a money genius isn’t to teach that four quarters equal a dollar or how to pick a stock. Instead, it’s about instilling values that have been proven to make people successful—not just financially, but in life: delaying gratification, working hard, living within your means, getting a good education, and acting generously toward others. More specifically, you’ll learn why allowance isn’t the Holy Grail when teaching your kid to handle money, and why after-school jobs aren’t always the answer either. You’ll discover the right age to give your kid a credit card, and learn why doling out a wad of cash can actually be a good parenting move.

You don’t need to be a money genius to make your kid a money genius. Regardless of your comfort level with finance—or your family’s income—this charming and fun book is an essential guide for passing along enduring financial principles, making your kids wise beyond their years—and peers—when it comes to money.